Friday, June 26, 2009

Question about "He's Just Not That Into You"

So - I watched He's Just Not That Into You a few weeks ago and I was wondering about something.

You know how they talk about how girls tell each other stories - basically rumors - that help each other get along with their specific situation? And the main guy character says, "They are the exception, not the rule." For instance, one of the girls is having an affair (dumb dumb dumb) and her friend tells her she knows a man who left his wife to marry the girl he was having an affair with and they've been married for 30 years.

An old roommate told me a story once about her friend who chased a guy, rather than the other way around, and he married her. Is this one of those stories that's an exception? Because it's feeling like it is - unless it's one of those things some girls can get away with because they're gorgeous, which makes for maybe a few more exceptions than normal. Or is our society truly changing and women have more power in dating relationships than they used to and are breaking social norms left and right?

For most relationships I've seen, most of the chasing has to be mutual - although I have seen some relationships where it seems that one person gives up and allows themselves to be caught. But is this just a perception on my part or a reality? I really wonder how some relationships work.

These are the things I think about sometimes - weird.


Becky said...

That movie was great. It does explain somewhat why some girls do like the bad boys.

Jen said...

It's totally about the chase but I think it's case specific. Not that my relationship with AK is the standard...but for us, had there been too much chase on either side (especially from me) we never would have ended up together. Overly forward guys creep me out and I think most guy prefer to do the pursuing...I think they like the control. Adam and I also acted like we cared less than we did at first...and we both brought up old flings to make the other a little jealous...rude and unintentional but true...and it worked well...clearly. Dumb old relationship games.

Heather said...

One of my friends was a chaser... she proposed to her husband. I think it totally depends on the people, but it is becoming more common to have the girls make the first move.